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My Learning Today – 20th August : STOP GOING TO PARTIES AND EVENTS EMPTY HANDED. E GET WHY.


Your little gifts today may be the open doors tomorrow.

My friend Musa was in my office when I got an invitation to our mutual friend Paul’s birthday party.

The invite clearly stated: “Access card valid for one person only.”

For over an hour, Musa quietly waited for his own IV, until he finally asked:
“Paul never send my own IV oh, abi him no want make I come?”

Awkward moment. Weeks earlier, Paul had told me he wanted the party to be very exclusive. When I checked his guest list, Musa’s name was missing. I assumed it was a mistake, so I asked Paul.

Smiling, Paul explained:
“I don’t want people who never hold parties and never bring presents. They are always the first to arrive and the first to leave, with nothing in their hands.”

Let me not lie, he hyped me small. He said he couldn’t remember me ever attending his house or events without a gift, even if it was something little from Jewel Publishers (like mugs, t-shirts, sports jerseys) or gadgets from Jewel Multiservices (like laptop stands, TV dongles, or phone holders). Those little efforts secured me a spot on his guest list.

Some may think, “Na just party, nothing spoil.” But truth be told, I don’t attend parties just for food. I eat well at home before going. What matters to me is the connection, because more than once, the next big gig came from a stranger I met at a party.

πŸ‘‰πŸ½ The lesson: Stop attending parties and events empty-handed. No matter how small, carry something. People spend time and money to host you; honour them with a gesture that shows you value the invite.

If you need ideas, I can help suggest small but meaningful items from our businesses, Jewel Publishers for branded gifts and Jewel Multiservices for practical gadgets.

Shalom.


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  1. Learn something today
    Things like that can indeed give you a connection

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